About

My name is Moon

I'm a pleasure coach, professional online dominatrix, ex-academic teacher and queer non-binary slutty (s)witch. I find pleasure in dancing, silly puns, spanking and cake.

I currently live in Oaxaca, Mexico.

My approach

My understanding of coaching is the act of space holding and gentle teaching in order to enable other people to grow into their full potential - as human beings and erotic agents.

I come into this work as a whole human in all my complexity - and can therefore hold space for other people to explore their erotic, sexual and embodied wholeness. Having journeyed myself from the depth of pain and trauma into pleasure, presence and erotic self expression I want to share the wisdom I’ve gained on the way.

Developing presence, embodiment and agency are fundamental in this process. I work with many techniques from different healing modalities like mindfulness, yoga, Qigong, meditation, breathwork and dance as well as journaling, shadow work, parts work and creative writing.

Both my background in academic teaching as well as my work as a professional dominatrix inform the way I hold the space.

Influental teachers that have changed the way I am in the world: Tara Brach, Adrienne Maree Brown, Kai Cheng Thom, Genesis P.Orridge, Betty Martin, Thich Nhat Hanh, Richard Schwartz, Gabor Maté, Babalon.

My story

My name is Moon. I was born in Hamburg, Germany in 1986. My whole life I’ve been living on the edge of pleasure and pain. I was diagnosed with leukemia at age 2, healed at age 4 and have since carried a lot of physical and mental trauma. I’ve also been struggling with depression, anxiety, disassociation and compulsion for most of my life. Since 2020 I’ve been living with a chronic illness called Pre Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD). At the same time, I’ve always had this burning hunger for life, joy, play, exploration, kink, sex and simply feeling good for once.

I spent most of my twenties exploring sexuality, kink, polyamory and gender both theoretically and practically in the incredibly exciting landscape of 2010s Berlin. I was very fortunate to have a sex positive playground like Berlin available to me and it radically opened me up in many ways - while also enabling my dissociative tendency to go faster, harder, louder always.

Since 2018 I have been working as an online dominatrix. I've come in contact with hundreds of different complex sexual and kinky beings who trust me with their desires and fantasies. Many of my clients have been working with me for years and I hold space for their explorations of familiar and unfamiliar territory. It's always - despite the occasional consensual cruelty - a tender and intimate encounter with the depth of their erotic imagination. I've witnessed many moments of vulnerability, transformation and healing which strengthen my trust in the enormous potential of sexuality, kink and BDSM.

My own healing journey of the past decade has been a long and winded road from my head into my body. Initiated by a burn out during my PhD (ironically, I was writing about bodies) I was forced to radically slow down and start exploring what my body actually feels like. After decades of disassociation from my body and quite radical attempts to get through to feeling something (BDSM was a great helper there) I tried a different approach: slowness, presence and self-compassion.

That approach proved to be a lot more useful in the long run. This process of embodiment has been very challenging at times - and also extremely rewarding. Moving through different stages of healing like grief, anger, sadness and also acceptance, joy and even bliss has given me a depth of experience that deeply informs the way I hold space for myself and others today.